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Uncomfortable

“How do we sit with people who are living with extended uncertainty?  Many cross-cultural workers are suffering at the moment. I’m finding it really hard”, said Rose*, a member care worker.  Her face twisted as she said this to her member care support group. Liz*, another member care worker, asked, “What do we say to … Continue reading Uncomfortable

Betwixt and Between

‘I can’t plan due to all the uncertainty! I don’t know if and when we can return to Peru’, exclaimed Simone*, who is talking to Liz*, her member care worker. Simone, her husband and their four children, have been back in Australia for over a year and were due for return to Peru months ago. … Continue reading Betwixt and Between

Dried up?

Marion* felt all dried up!   “Has God abandoned me?  I feel like God is very far away or maybe not even there at all?  I still go to church but it’s hard and I feel guilty about my lack of faith.  When I go to mission conferences, all the other ex-cross-cultural workers seem so … Continue reading Dried up?

Listening well?

“How can I listen better?”, asks Mandy*. Mandy, a Member Carer Worker, then goes on to recounts a few examples of pastoral encounters that had been less than ideal, to her supervisor, Heather*. “I listened for over an hour to Jessica* while she talked about changes that had to be made to her plans: the … Continue reading Listening well?

Porn

“I look at porn most days,” John* tells Dan*, his member care worker.   John is married to Shirley and they have two small children.  He and his family are applying to work cross culturally with a sending organisation that has a policy of not sending those with active pornography habits (John may not know … Continue reading Porn

Good Grief!

Ross* spoke enthusiastically,  “Our family’s time overseas was overwhelmingly positive and fruitful.  It was a difficult decision to leave Peru but we had a calm and planned return to Australia.  Deputation went smoothly; it was a valuable time saying goodbye to our supporters.”    Ross and his family had just landed back ‘home’ in Sydney, … Continue reading Good Grief!

Brain Fog

After serving overseas in fulfilling ministry for over 10 years, Ross* and his family returned to Australia from Peru*.  When he arrived, Ross was halfway through writing up a post-graduate thesis.  Based on his productivity in Peru, Ross fully expected to finish this writing within six months of their return. Soon after his arrival, Ross … Continue reading Brain Fog

Why did he do that?

Matt* graduated in 2013 with first class honours and began the application process for a mission agency at the end of that year. He and Cailey*, his wife, both had interviews in November of that year. Matt talked with the interviewer about some anger issues he used to have but stated that he had realised … Continue reading Why did he do that?

The New Normal!

Sue* and Liz*, her Member Care Worker, chatted about how she was going.  Sue, her husband and three children were preparing to head off to work in India*. Sue had shared earlier that she had experienced significant anxiety and depression in her adolescence. When Liz suggested counseling to reflect on these past experiences, Sue’s body … Continue reading The New Normal!

The Blame game

Imagine if your husband’s burning desire all his life was to be a missionary! What if, because you became unwell – your whole family had to return to Australia? How would you deal with that? Who is to blame? How can we as Member Carer Workers care for them? John* had always wanted to be … Continue reading The Blame game