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How to resource cross-cultural workers

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I purchased the books listed below and took them with me when visiting cross-cultural workers during ‘home’ leave. Then the cross-cultural workers could borrow those most appropriate for them. Books that were most often helpful were those about re-entry, burnout, resilience, marriage, intercultural marriage, singleness in mission, spiritual health, anxiety, stress, third-culture kids, forgiveness and pornography.

Re-entry

  • Burn-Up for Splash Down by Marion Knell
  • Returning Well: Your Guide to Thriving Back “Home” After Serving Cross-Culturally by Melissa Chaplin (a workbook – typically I suggest that they try to find someone also in re-entry to work through it with)
  • Receiving Them Well: A Guide on How to Support Your Loved One Returning from Humanitarian Aid or Missionary Work by L. and B. Ennis

Transition

  • Families on the Move by Marion Knell
  • Life In Motion: Growing Through Transitions by Ruth Van Reken and Amy Casteel
  • Uprooted: A Guide For Homesick Christians by Rebecca Van Dodewaard
  • Homesick: My Story by Jean Fritz
  • Moving House: Bible Readings For Special Times by Catherine Hickey

Burnout/Resilience

  • Unloading the Overload: A Christian Guide to Managing Stress by Cliff Powell and Graham Barker
  • Zeal Before Burnout by Christopher Ash
  • Healthy, Resilient and Effective in Cross-cultural Ministry by Laura Mae Gardner
  • Going the Distance by Peter Brain

Marriage

  • The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman and Nan Silver
  • Married for God by Christopher Ash

Intercultural Marriage

  • Your Intercultural Marriage by Marla Alupoaicei
  • Intercultural Marriage: Promises and Pitfalls, 3rd Edition by Dugan Romano

Singleness in Mission

  • Single Mission by Debbie Hawker and Tim Herbert

Spiritual Health

  • A Praying Life by Paul Miller
  • Listening to God by Joyce Huggett

Anxiety/Stress

  • 10 Best Ever Anxiety Management Techniques by Margaret Wherenberg
  • The Anxiety Cure:  You Can Find Emotional Tranquillity and Wholeness by Archibald Hart 
  • The Hidden Link Between Adrenaline and Stress by Archibald Hart
  • The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living by Russ Harris 
  • Mindfulness: An Eight-Week Plan for Finding Peace in a Frantic World by Mark Williams and Danny Penman
  • Helping Kids Cope With Change, Stress and Anxiety: A Photocopiable Book by Deborah Plummer

Third Culture Kids

  • Third Culture Kids: Growing Up Among Worlds: The Original Class Book on TCKs by David Pollock, Ruth Van Reken and Michael Pollock
  • The Grief Tower: A Practical Guide to Processing Grief with Third Culture Kids by Lauren Wells
  • Misunderstood: The Impact of Growing Up Overseas in the 21st Century by Tania Crossman
  • Raising Resilient MK’s: Resources for Caregivers, Parents, and Teachers edited by Joyce Bowers
  • Emotional Resilience and the Expat Child: Practical Storytelling Tips That Will Strengthen the Global Family by Julia Simens
  • 7 Tools For Cultivating Your Child’s Potential by Zan Tyler
  • Serving at the Ends of the Earth: Family Life and TCKs by Steve and Gill Bryant
  • Helping Kids Cope With Change, Stress and Anxiety: A Photocopiable Book by Deborah Plummer
  • When Children Grieve: For Adults to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, Pet Loss, Moving and Other Losses by John James and Russell Freedman
  • Bear Cards: Feelings by John Veeken (a set of cards used to facilitate children sharing feelings)

Forgiveness

  • Forgive & Forget by Lewis Smedes

Pornography

  • IP: DIY – Internet Pornography: Do-it-yourself treatment guide for men by Phil Watts
  • Captured by a Better Vision: Living Porn Free by Tim Chester

Have you any suggestions of other books to recommend for cross-cultural workers? Please comment below.

Updated: July 31, 2023

How to resource TCK’s (and their parents)

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I purchased the children’s books listed below (pre-school, primary school and teens) and took them with me when visiting families during ‘home’ leave. Then children and parents could borrow those that were most appropriate. Books that were most often helpful were stories about children moving, living in two worlds, friendship, difference, feelings, anxiety, change, identity, sexuality and porn-proofing children.

Preschool books (some suitable for lower primary school)

Leaving home

  • We’ll Still be a Family by Linsey Painter
  • Harold and Stanley Say Goodbye by Jill Dyer (OMF)
  • Alice and the King’s Quest by David and Emily Grace
  • Sammy’s Next Move by Helen Maffini
  • Alexander, Who’s Not (Do you hear me? I mean it!) Going to Move by Judith Viorst
  • Gila monsters meet you at the airport by Marjorie Weinman Sharmat
  • The Berenstain Bears’ Moving Day by Stan and Jan Berenstain
  • Oh, the Places You’ll Go! by Dr. Seuss
  • God is with You: That is All You Need by Larry Libby
  • Off We Go Workbook (OMF)

Living in two worlds

  • Lewis’s Interesting Life by Anna Brotherson and Sara Ang

Friendship

  • How to Be a Friend by Laurie Kransy Brown and Marc Brown

Difference

  • We’re Different, We’re the Same by Bobbi Jane Kates

Feelings

  • How are you Peeling? Foods with Moods by Saxton Freyman and Joost Elffers
  • God Gave Me Feelings by Catherine MacKenzie

Anger

  • Let’s Talk About Feeling Angry by Joy Berry

Pornography

  • Not for Kids! by Liz Walker
  • Good Pictures, Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids by Kristen Jenson and Gail Poyner

Primary school books

Anxiety

  • What to Do When You WORRY Too Much: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Anxiety by Dawn Huebner (Ages 6-12)
  • The Worry Tree by Marianne Musgrove
  • Hey Warrior: A Book for Kids About Anxiety by Karen Young

Change

  • Who Moved My Cheese? For Kids by Spencer Johnson, M.D. and Christian Johnson

Friendship

  • Amber Brown is Not a Crayon by Paula Danziger

Teen books

Grief

  • The Grief Tower: A Practical Guide to Processing Grief with Third Culture Kids by Lauren Wells

Change

  • Who Moved My Cheese? For Teens by Spencer Johnson, M.D. and Christian Johnson
  • Home Keeps Moving by Heidi Sand-Hart

Leaving well – RAFT

  • Burn Up or Splash Down: Surviving the Culture Shock of Re-entry by Marion Knell (the RAFT process is explained on p105-109)

Anxiety

  • Hey Warrior: A Book for Kids About Anxiety by Karen Young

Identity

  • Misunderstood: The Impact of Growing Up Overseas in the 21st Century by Tania Crossman
  • Rice, Noodles, Bread or Chapati: The Untold Stories of Asian MK’s edited by Polly Ho
  • Half and Half by Lensey Namloka
  • Between Two Worlds by LeAnne Hardy
  • Scamps, Scholars and Saints by Jill and Roger Dyer
  • …And Bees make Honey by Jill and Roger Dyer
  • Third Culture Kids: Growing Up Among Worlds: The Original Class Book on TCKs by David Pollock, Ruth Van Reken and Michael Pollock
  • Kids Without Borders: Journals of Chinese Missionary Kids by OMF

Re-entry

  • Re-Entry by Rosanne Hawke
  • Footsteps Around the World: Relocation Tips for Teens by Beverly D. Roman
  • The Global Nomad’s Guide to University Transition by Tina Quick
  • Tear Soup: A Recipe for Healing after Loss by Pat Schwiebert and Chuck DeKleyn
  • Burn Up or Splash Down: Surviving the Culture Shock of Re-entry by Marion Knell

Sexuality

  • Growing Up By the Book by Patricia Weerakoon
  • Teen Sex By the Book by Patricia Weerakoon

Pornography

  • IP: DIY – Internet Pornography: Do-it-yourself treatment guide for men by Phil Watts
  • Captured by a Better Vision: Living Porn Free by Tim Chester

Online Resources 4 TCKs regarding pornography

Kids and Pornography: Using Internet Accountability to Protect and Teach Your Children (Video, parents) – http://www.covenanteyes.com/2012/09/13/how-to-talk-to-kids-about-pornography/

EducateEmpowerKids (Website/Blog, parents) – 

http://educateempowerkids.org/category/healthy-sexuality/ 

What’s the problem with pornography?  It’s bigger than lust, and more than just disobeying the Bible (Webpage, youth) – http://fervr.net/teen-life/whats-the-problem-with-pornography/

Guilty Pleasure (Website, adult) – Focused towards directing people to course and programs that will help them recover from their addiction. – https://guiltypleasure.org/about/

Have you any suggestions of other books to recommend for cross-cultural workers? Please comment below.

Updated: July 31, 2023